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May 31, 2024 by Kristina Lunde Leave a Comment

The 9/11 Memorial Pools: Michael Arad’s “Reflecting Absence”

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Architect Michael Arad designed the World Trade Center-site memorial, entitled “Reflecting Absence,” to honor the 2,983 people killed on September 11, 2001 (in New York, Pennsylvania, at the Pentagon) and during the February 26, 1993 bombing. Opened on the tenth anniversary of 9/11, the two memorial pools were built upon the actual footprints of 1 World Trade Center (the North Tower) and 2 World Trade Center (the South Tower), respectively. In Arad’s words, “Its scale is massive and personal, its impact individual.”

I knew that my first impression of the 9/11 memorial would be profoundly moving but wasn’t sure what to expect. Obviously, this would be no splashy, gravity-defying fountain with upward-facing theme. No, these gravity-sucking, downward-focused pools gripped me emotionally, as intended. Michael Arad eloquently summarized his design: “You have to make that absence tangible, physical, something that, when you walk up to the edge of that void, you feel it. It’s not just in your head, it’s in your heart.” How these two towers, after standing sentry over Manhattan for almost three decades, could be obliterated in terrorist-piloted acts of evil is still incomprehensible. Arad’s words rang true for me, even though my first visit to the site was over twenty years after the event. The horrors that unfolded that September 11, 2001 morning impacted our nation forever.

Design

The pools, constructed by Delta Fountains, are an engineering marvel. Thirty-foot-high waterfalls frame identical one-acre square memorial pools. In the center of each pool, the water cascades into a smaller square whose bottom is unseen, an inestimable deep pit when viewed from above. The memorials’ seeming simplicity belies the engineering expertise that designed and now sustains these catchment basins: 16 pumps to circulate 26,000 gallons of water each minute, circulating over 480,000 gallons of recycled water—every day in all types of weather.

Symbolism

The pools identify the towers’ footprints, commemorating a vibrant storied past now relegated to sorrowful sinking silence. Invisible water depths symbolize the physical devastation caused when the massive twin towers collapsed in dust and debris. Emotionally, the waterfalls represent the grief and sorrow that flowed down and down and down—to the unfathomable depths of survivors’ wounded hearts.

Since the memorials opened in 2011, their dedicated employees continue to uphold the memory of lives lost. On the deceased victims’ birthdays, memorial workers place white roses on the names etched into the bronze parapets. What a beautiful act of love and service by those who care for the fountains and honor the deceased! Restaurant workers. Finance experts. Passengers on a seemingly-random airplane flight. Office workers on a Tuesday morning. First responders. Rescue personnel. Unexpected heroes. Dads, moms, grandparents, siblings, children. Unborn babies who should now be in this world as 20-somethings. Innocent victims—so many precious people—killed in the attacks. And yet, in this memorial, these lives are remembered and honored.

Image by Luna-Lucero from Pixabay

Lord, as the God of all comfort, please be with those whose 9/11 losses are pervasive and ongoing. Be with those who are still facing their sorrow. The one whose unborn child might be graduating from college now. The daughter whose father won’t walk her down the wedding aisle this summer. And the widowed wife grieving the husband who is absent as she ages. Lord God, comfort all who grieve and bless them with hope and a future, as only you can. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

Filed Under: Grief Tagged With: 9/11, memorial, Michael Arad, reflecting pools

April 23, 2024 by Kristina Lunde Leave a Comment

A Lesion, a Lump, and a Biopsy: Avoiding the Bunny Trail of Anxiety

A Lesion, a lump, and a biopsy. Two issues related to two body systems. Two doctor’s appointments in one day. Would this send me detouring down the bunny trail of anxiety? Everyone else seemed to be having much more fun that day, watching a total eclipse of the sun. My brother drove across two states to see it. A friend and her husband had traveled to Texas for the excitement. All that made me more prone to self-pity on my rough day.

So what did I do with my lesion, lump, and the likely need for a biopsy? A detour down the bunny trail of anxiety beckoned me: this could be cancer. What am I going to do? I may need a biopsy and excision, a realistic outcome I have faced before. The bunny trail of anxiety may start realistically, but then it makes a fast descent downward. What if the biopsy result shows cancer? What if I need chemo? Will I have to clear my schedule and my life to deal with this?!

The phrase future-tripping is how my friend Daphne describes that process of mentally starting to trip over obstacles that have not yet presented themselves. These concerns may never develop into problems, because my current assumptions might be false and never impact my future. A relevant Bible verse against future-tripping, or getting detoured down the bunny trail of anxiety, is:

Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble. Matthew 6:34 ESV

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In other words, leave tomorrow’s anxiety for tomorrow. The context of that verse, Matthew 6:25-34, is Jesus’ description of food, drink, and clothing as basic needs that the heavenly Father provides for the birds, flowers, and grass. Jesus asks us to consider how much more God will take care of us. Jesus lays out the priorities: all these things will be added to us if we seek God’s kingdom and righteousness first. Verse 33 is the antidote for the bunny trail of anxiety, because when we seek God first, we do not need to be anxious for tomorrow.

In my head, I know this. And after reflective thoughts and editing, my words may later express this content. But when my mind is flooded with the stress of unknowns, I find it tough to live out those Bible verses. Breathe deeply. Repeat the Bible verses to myself. Ask God for help to avoid future-tripping or detours down the anxiety bunny trail. Don’t choose to worry when I can trust God instead:

Be still and know that I am God. Psalm 46:10 ESV

Meditate on Psalm 46:10. Apply God’s Word to the concerns of my life: lesions, lumps, biopsies, and their related outcomes. My eclipse day was not an easy-breezy day. I left the first appointment with one skin biopsy and treatment for many superficial skin lesions. The next appointment challenged me to trust God even more. No matter the outcome, I need to be still and trust God as the Lord of my life.

Lord, please stop me from detouring down the bunny trail of anxiety. Teach me to trust you for all the unknowns. Not just to intellectually know that you provide but—deep in my soul and body—to completely trust you. Help me to be still and know that you are God. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

Filed Under: Trust Tagged With: biopsy, bunny trail of anxiety, future-tripping, Psalm 46:10

March 27, 2024 by Kristina Lunde Leave a Comment

Daddy’s Girl: From Hate to Belonging

Like a queen to her adoring subjects, she expounded on her topic, gesticulating as she explained how she persuaded her father to concede to her demands. She was sure her wisdom, dispensed with grandiose ideas and a bit of condescension, would impress us. Not a chance. And no, we never asked for advice on being a Daddy’s Girl.

“You know how you just look at your Dad with big eyes and he’ll melt and give you whatever you ask for?!” She expected that to resonate with us. But no, we had no idea. Standing around her lawn chair, we wondered what this large, sassy thirty-something meant by her question.

I thought about the three of us and realized why her experience meant absolutely nothing to us. One of the teenagers had been abandoned by her father very early in life. Raised by a single mother, the teenager barely knew her biological father. He had seldom contributed any money, much less time, to her or her sister as they grew up. The other teenager—my daughter—had lived for almost half of her life without her father, who died of a sudden heart attack. In addition to parenting my children without my husband, I had also grown up fatherless after my Dad died in a plane crash.

And so we stared blankly at Miss Queen-of-her-lawn-chair. We couldn’t relate to the financial riches she spoke of or the idea of a father who granted her every wish. Nor did we understand her arrogant manipulative ways. Or how she took pride in the ability to get anything she wanted out of her father. That irked me. A lot. I have always hated Daddy’s Girls.

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Honestly, it’s really cute when girls are little and they have a loving relationship with their father. I used to be thrilled that my daughter and husband shared such a close relationship. I looked forward to watching my daughter’s attachment to her father grow all of her life. Until his life ended and we didn’t have him anymore.

What I despise is when a spoiled princess grows up to demand things from her father, milking him out of time, money, and whatever else she can get. That “ability,” as lawn-chair Daddy’s Girl bragged about, does not translate to successful grown-up skills. Manipulation, entitlement, and mooching will not help you develop life skills of maturity, compromise, negotiation, and working hard toward a goal.

At my recent resentment over a spoiled Daddy’s Girl—and my wording sounds much gentler than I felt—I thought about my heavenly Father. Or rather, the Holy Spirit directed my mind to my Heavenly Father. I have lived 50+ years without my earthly father, but I can look back and trace how my heavenly Father has protected, provided for, and loved me all of my life. Yes, my earthly father loved Jesus and taught me about my Savior, but my heavenly Father has spoiled me with so much more. God made the amazing sacrifice of sending His son Jesus to die for my disobedience and bitterness.

God has given me His Word to learn from and study. What a gift! Everything I need for life and living, I can find in the Bible. I can spend my life studying it and never exhaust the rich meaning and application of God’s Word to my circumstances. I talk with Him any time, confident that He hears me. Although I ask for a lot, I trust Him to answer. He may not answer like I want Him to, but I can be sure that He knows best. My heavenly Father will always guide me, even when my requests are selfish and I veer in the wrong direction.

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My Lord has richly blessed me with forgiveness, salvation, redemption, sanctification (even when it hurts), and the promise of eternal life with Him. I guess I can call myself a Daddy’s Girl, a child of my Heavenly Father’s. I am proud to belong to my Abba Father.

Lord, you have given me much more than I deserve. Thank you so much for sending Jesus in my place to die for the sin I so easily commit. Please forgive me and help me to appreciate and love you. Teach me to obey, even if it requires your discipline and conviction first. I love you, my Abba, and I am honored to be your daughter. Amen.

Filed Under: Trust Tagged With: Daddy’s Girl, daughter, father, forgiveness, prayer

February 26, 2024 by Kristina Lunde Leave a Comment

Wheelchair to Wheelchair Devotions

Head down and arms laden with books, the woman scooted into the nursing home room. There were no foot rests on her wheelchair and books kept her from turning the wheels, so she motored across the floor using her feet. Small in stature and barely looking ahead, her eyes were not visible as she entered the room. Not a powerful or attention-getting entry, but the love of God radiated from her.

A Devotion Delivery Vehicle (Image by Stefano Ferrario from Pixabay)

I was visiting my friend A, who has fought Huntington’s disease and lived in a nursing home for over a decade. Due to her disease, A’s speech is now limited to single guttural words and cries. Her joyful response to the woman in the wheelchair needed no words. A’s face brightened and she let out a cry of joy, matched by increased spastic movements of her arms. Seeing A’s excitement, I wondered about the visiting woman. When she scooted closer to A’s wheelchair, I noticed growths on every area of her exposed skin: face, arms, and legs. I wondered if mobility caused her pain or if she lived with chronic pain.

After introducing myself, the woman responded with a soft, “I’m J.” Then J explained her purpose: she visited A to read devotions to her. In addition to her Bible, J carried three devotion books in her arms. What a faithful gift of wheelchair-to-wheelchair devotions that J shared with A! I don’t know how frequently she visited, but from A’s reaction, I guessed it was often.

J probably didn’t know that she was an answer to prayers for A. On my infrequent visits, A enjoyed when I prayed for her, but I didn’t know if anyone else prayed with her. I assumed that J was a chaplain, but the receptionist later told me that J lived in the building and visited other residents as a volunteer. J’s obvious dedication to God and faithful visits are not accomplished for money. She likely sets aside her own pain and mobility issues to visit others for wheelchair-to-wheelchair devotions. That makes her sacrifice even more precious. J serves where God has placed her and shares Jesus with people who don’t get many visitors. J’s wheelchair-to-wheelchair devotions are a sweet gift of love and ministry. J exemplifies this Bible verse:

Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms. If anyone speaks, they should do so as one who speaks the very words of God. If anyone serves, they should do so with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever. Amen. 1 Peter 4:10-11

Lord God, thank you for J and her love for others. Please bless her wheelchair-to-wheelchair devotions. Let J’s time with A be an encouragement and a blessing for both of them. Help J to keep serving in your strength and for your glory. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

Filed Under: Ministry Tagged With: devotions, nursing home, wheelchair

January 30, 2024 by Kristina Lunde Leave a Comment

Your Child: God’s Strong-Willed Gift to You

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“She’s going to be a leader!” proclaimed a voice from the long line for the women’s bathroom after BSF (Bible Study Fellowship). The strong-willed preschooler again exclaimed, “No!” as she refused to enter the open stall. Meanwhile, the mother adjusted her baby boy on one hip and held a door closed for the older daughter. Middle-child held firm, her stance as resolute as her attitude.

“Yes, she’ll be a leader,” another voice confirmed as the preschooler continued to resist. Mom patiently asked the little girl, “Please try to go.” Finally, strong-willed girl headed into the stall and the battle ended. The mother remained patient and calm, expertly dealing with all three children at once. Hearing that her daughter showed leadership skills probably did not encourage the battle-weary mother.

When middle-child finally obeyed, I felt a collective sense of relief from the waiting women. Like many of us in that line, I had faced challenges raising my own strong-willed children. There was so much I wanted to say to encourage that precious mother.

About five minutes later, I saw brothers M & T bolt toward the exit door without their usual mom-escort. I had met the two-year-old twins during occasional mornings spent helping with BSF leadership childcare. M & T are well-known and well-loved by the volunteers. We enjoy these smart boys, keeping them from climbing while trying to engage them with blocks or mechanical toys.

When we realized that H, their ever-attentive mom, was not nearby, another woman and I started chasing M & T. Silly conversation, turning the boys around, helping them look for Mommy—nothing could distract them from their march outside. H soon arrived and, with a breathless thank you, followed M & T through the exit door. Again I wanted to encourage that dear mother, who probably had a five-second conversation before her sons ran off.

My encouragement for moms of strong-willed children:

1. Your strong-willed child is a gift from God.

Behold, children are a gift of the LORD, the fruit of the womb is a reward. Psalm 127:3 NASB

Your sovereign God has rewarded you with the gift of this child. As Creator God, He knew both you and your child before He formed you in the womb (Jeremiah 1:5). That means He knows what is best for all of you. Sometimes that truth is hard to hang onto. I certainly felt that way when my two strong-willed children overwhelmed me, especially when I parented alone for seven years. I had to trust and obey God, even when my parenting job seemed impossible. Dear Tired Momma, trust your sovereign God with all of life’s challenges, especially with parenting the child He gave you.

2. Your strong-willed child is a blessing to others.

Whoever receives one child like this in My name receives Me; and whoever receives Me does not receive Me, but Him who sent Me. Mark 9:37

Glancing from the boys’ Sunday-school room, I caught a glimpse of the second-grade girls across the hall. To my horror, two girls were jumping on the table—my daughter and her friend! In comparison, our energetic second-grade boys seemed fun, respectful, and manageable. Yet again, that confirmed my strategy. I volunteered to teach children for our church activities, as long as I didn’t have my kids in my class. Because I faced battles with my strong-willed children at home, I didn’t want to do that at church, too. I felt grateful to have help from other teachers who could impact my kids at church.

Twenty-plus years later, I can appreciate those God-given attributes of spunk, tenacity, and adventure in children. When not used in disrespectful or dangerous ways, those traits can be appreciated, nurtured, and guided. But maintaining perspective is tough when battles with your strong-willed child seem constant. Years ago, a woman named Lynne Jackson greatly encouraged me during our conversation. Now, Lynne and her husband Jim have a Bible-based ministry called Connected Families that helps thousands of frazzled parents.

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God knows what character traits your children need for the future. Make sure that people dealing with your children do not squelch the very qualities that God created in them. Allow other people to teach and enjoy your children. And don’t be surprised when other people enjoy and are blessed by time spent with your children. Hopefully, that will give you encouragement, perspective, role models, and a respite. After surviving my own children, I now enjoy sharing Christ’s love with children—especially when they’re strong-willed.

3. God will grow your faith as you parent your strong-willed child.

You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. These words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up. Deuteronomy 6:5-7

When we teach our children as God instructs, our focus on loving and serving God keeps us grounded in Him. Our faith will deepen as we draw closer to our Creator while parenting the children He gave us.

Dear Tired Momma, may you recognize your child as a gift from the sovereign God who created both of you. May God give you insight into your child’s character as you deal with strong-willed behavior in challenging situations. Even as you cope with parenting frustrations, may God reveal how your child blesses others. May the Holy Spirit grow His gifts in you (Galatians 5:22-23) as you follow His guidance in your parenting. I pray that God will refresh and encourage you in the ongoing journey of parenting.

Filed Under: Parenting Tagged With: BSF, child, mother, parenting, strong-willed

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