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September 28, 2015 by Kristina Lunde 2,069 Comments

Praying for the Terminally Ill: Four Rs for Ruth

My mother’s best friend and prayer partner, Ruth, battled breast cancer for years. When the cancer invaded her bones, Ruth’s army of prayer warriors beseeched God to slay the dreaded disease. For many years God miraculously subdued Ruth’s cancer and pain as she continued to write, teach, counsel, and minister for His glory.

My prayers for Ruth were admittedly often fear-based rather than faith based. I could not imagine such a strong woman of God being overpowered and her ministry silenced by this horrendous cancer. As when my mother was on hospice, I frequently hesitated to pray for healing, for fear that God would answer with His ultimate healing. Our loved ones are welcomed into heaven and live eternally pain-free, but those of us left behind have to cope without them. (No, God, that’s not what I meant! I wanted you to heal her here and now – for us.) My selfish desire for them to be healthy here on earth does not always match up with God’s plan for them, and I am left to grieve the difference.

When I asked God how to pray for Ruth, He gave me a prayer mnemonic that I now use for anyone facing the end of their earthly life. These are the four Rs for Ruth:

1. Relief of pain

May God grant wisdom to everyone involved in decision-making as the focus shifts from medical cure to palliative care. May the pain be miraculously eased by God’s power and provision throughout the remaining hours/days/months of life.

2. Rest and sleep

In the midst of pain and illness, may God give sweet sleep and rest.

3. Relationship with spouse/family

In the time warp of illness and pain, may God shower this couple/family with precious intimacy as their earthly time together draws to a close.

4. Reconciliation

May God orchestrate time schedules, travel arrangements, and interactions as family and friends come to say goodbye. May God’s peace and emotional healing provide closure to relationships.

Lord, teach us to pray, even when our loved one’s ultimate healing leaves us grieving.

[Originally posted March 2015]

 

Filed Under: Prayer Tagged With: cancer, prayer, terminally ill

September 28, 2015 by Kristina Lunde 1,269 Comments

Ruth Olson’s Legacy

Ruth Olson died peacefully on January 19, 2015 after her long journey through metastatic breast cancer. How fitting that such a devoted advocate for pregnant mothers and unborn babies died the night after Sanctity of Human Life Sunday.

Poured out onto her family, church, community, and beyond, Ruth’s lifelong gifts of service are a legacy worth commemorating. In honoring Ruth, we honor the God who infused her with trailblazing talents, ministry leadership, and a passion to share Jesus’ love.

A memorable impression of Ruth was her rich, full soprano singing voice and the excitement she brought to praise and worship gatherings. Ruth sang like a soloist, with the vibrato, projection, and descants of a soprano star, but she stayed focused on the God she was praising. In the early 1970s, as a distracted kid looking around at church members singing with closed eyes, I curiously noticed that the adults, Ruth included, were focused on worship and purposeful about the lyrics. Ruth never knew that she had at least one kid marveling at how her vibrato worked.

Ruth was a trailblazer in many different aspects of her life. In a generation where tradition dictated that women should not wear long hair after age forty, Ruth kept her wavy black hair long and full. Not until decades later, after many rounds of chemotherapy, did Ruth keep her salt and pepper waves above shoulder length.

In ministry and otherwise, Ruth always functioned with her husband Jerry’s support and collaboration. Whether they counseled families together or he backed her outreach to women, Ruth and Jerry were partners in their service to God. Occasionally, couples would show up at the Olson’s house at 10:30 at night, desperate for marriage counseling. Jerry and Ruth would drop everything, offer their hospitality, and pour God’s love into hurting lives, no matter who came to their door. When they weren’t ministering at night, the Olsons occasionally chased their cows that had escaped the fenced pasture. As a child, my impression of Jerry and Ruth was that they were night owls – dealing either with angry couples or wayward cows.

Long before the ease of clip art, printing a bulletin involved hours of typing up stencils and making mimeographed copies. As church secretary, Ruth often drew unique little pictures to add to the bulletin. Her gifts of organization, artistic skills, and heartfelt writing blessed many people in her role of secretary, and also in her later life roles of pastor’s wife, counselor, speaker, and author. Using church bulletins, newsletters, and her self-published books, Ruth continued to communicate her faith and love for Jesus through the printed word.

Many women’s groups were blessed by Ruth’s ministry of speaking and teaching God’s Word. My mother’s role was to sit in the back row and intercede for God’s truth and blessing during these events. After the message, Ruth would spend hours ministering to women one-on-one: listening, encouraging, and praying with them. My mother returned from those outreaches exhausted, wondering how Ruth could continue to give so much to so many, especially the additional ministry after she spoke.

Although Ruth focused her ministry on local outreaches, such as founding a pregnancy assistance center in Red Wing and speaking at Women’s Aglow meetings, her Gentle Doves ministry reached far beyond the region. Ruth’s goal in writing Gentle Doves, a Christian newsletter, was to encourage women in their walk with the Lord. The monthly magazine contained articles on topics as varied as end-time prophecy, pro-life perspective, and household helps. In the late 1980s, my parents used a dot matrix printer to print address labels. Then they gathered with other volunteers at their dining room table to label and sort the mail by hand. At its peak, the newsletter was mailed out to over 1500 people in the United States and internationally. Ruth later expanded the Gentle Doves magazine to an online presence with Bible studies, articles, book descriptions, and her blog.

Before self-publishing was easy or common, Ruth self-published several books and made them available during her speaking presentations. Ruth’s last book chronicled her adjustment to the diagnosis of breast cancer from her perspective as a retired registered nurse. She shared what she learned, her selfless motivation evidenced by the title, My Gift to You: Encouragement During a Cancer Crisis. The long journey Ruth faced through breast cancer and subsequent bone metastasis became her ministry outreach to those facing the same diagnosis. Her calm dignity and constant focus on Jesus’ love for others were the hallmarks of her approach to cancer.

When her health declined and she could no longer attend speaking engagements, Ruth’s heart for ministry never wavered. Recently, she focused her efforts on personally supporting, and raising money for, impoverished families in Africa. One of her last outings, as breathing and walking were an obvious struggle, was spent wiring monetary support to an African pastor.

Ruth lived her life pursuing God’s work and ministering wherever God called her. May Ruth Olson’s legacy inspire us to passionately serve the amazing God she loved and lived for.

[Originally posted February 2015]

Filed Under: Grief Tagged With: eulogy, grief, legacy

September 28, 2015 by Kristina Lunde 1,365 Comments

Pillowcase Dresses

Dear little girl in Africa,

Please accept this pillowcase dress as a gift from me, a mother over in America. No, we don’t know each other, and we probably won’t ever meet. But God knows you and loves you very much.

 

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Please don’t look at my stitches – look to the God who loves you.

 

I haven’t taken my sewing machine out in years, and I haven’t sewn a garment in decades. God was the one who gave me the opportunity to sew for you. It wasn’t my idea, but I knew that I wanted to be a part of the program my friend Barb started at our church. Barb knows a couple who travel on mission trips to Africa, and they like to give out pillowcase dresses. Barb had the idea to teach women from our church how to sew these dresses.

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Please don’t look at my stitches – look to the God who loves you.

 

With the instructions from Barb, some pillowcases donated by people in our church, and some supplies I bought, I went to work. To sew. And sew. And sew. I made lots of dresses, praying over each one as I sewed. I prayed that through this gift, you would learn about God’s grace and how much He loves you. I prayed that God chose the colors and trim for these dresses to be exactly what you like. May God use this to show you how unique and precious you are to Him.

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Please don’t look at my stitches – look to the God who loves you.

 

Have you heard the story about the Israelites who wandered for forty years in the desert? Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers, and Deuteronomy, the second through fifth books of the Bible, tell their story. The Israelites had some tough lessons about discipline and obedience to learn, and they were often ungrateful and complaining towards God, but God still watched over them.  Deuteronomy 8:4 describes God’s amazing provision: “The clothes on your back did not wear out and your feet did not swell these forty years.” God miraculously protected and provided for them in the middle of a barren desert, making even their clothing last while they focused on their lessons. As I sewed your dress, I prayed that God would make it last far beyond the limits of my stitching, so that you could focus on learning about God and His gift of grace through His son Jesus.

Please don’t look at my stitches – look to the God who loves you.

 

I don’t even know the people delivering this dress to you, but I pray that they will also teach you about the grace, love, joy, forgiveness, and hope that you can have through God’s son Jesus. My prayer for you is that you will come to know the God of love through the gift of this pillowcase dress.

[Originally posted February 2015]

Filed Under: Letter Tagged With: letter, pillowcase dresses

September 28, 2015 by Kristina Lunde 1,041 Comments

College Bible Study Ideas

Dear Mikayla,

I wanted to get back to you after your question about a Bible study that you could do at college. Given the standard college budget of zero, there are many things you can do on your own.

Here are some ideas for you as you start a Bible study at college:

  1. Find a quiet place to meet. Wait – you live in a college dorm. . .
  2. Ask God to guide you as to who you invite. Encourage participants to bring their Bibles. Different versions of the Bible will give perspective and spark discussions. I like to use “smart Bibles,” as I call the study, devotion, and/or reference Bibles that have notes on culture, geography, cross references, and other information.
  3. Pray before you start, both personally and as a group. You can pray God’s Word right back to Him, for example:

Dear Lord, please open my eyes that I may see wonderful things in your law. I am your servant; give me discernment that I may understand your statutes (Psalm 119:18, 125 NIV.) In Jesus’ name, Amen.

  1. Stick with the Bible. God says in Isaiah 55:11 that His Word will not return to Him empty, and it will accomplish His desires and purposes. God’s Word is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword (Hebrews 4:12.) Let God guide the study and He will fulfill your desire to grow and understand His Word.
  2. Select a passage or chapter and discuss the who, when, where, what, why, and how questions. Who wrote it? When and where was it written? (Smart Bibles help answer those questions.) What does it say? What do I get out of it?

Why was it written?

How do I apply this to my life?

  1. You may go off topic – and have the best discussion ever. Or, you may need to reign it in and encourage the group to agree to disagree. Your participants will appreciate a consistent starting and ending time.
  2. Always close with prayer to focus the group on God.

Other ideas:

Check out campus organizations (e.g. your local campus chapel, InterVarsity Christian Fellowship, Campus Crusade for Christ, etc.) for Bible study ideas and resources.

Here are other questions to use in a Bible study:

http://www.ligonier.org/blog/5-questions-ask-when-reading-bible/  by Steven Lawson

https://bible.org/seriespage/four-steps-inductive-bible-study by Melanie Newton

My Bible on the Bluff video study is something you can do without buying the associated study guide. Warning: the video settings may make you homesick.

Thank you for honoring me with your question. May God bless you incredibly as you dig into His Word.

Love to you at school from our family.

[Originally posted January 2015]

Filed Under: Letter Tagged With: Bible study, college, letter

September 28, 2015 by Kristina Lunde 1,476 Comments

Brynn’s Big Girl Moment

Dear Brynn’s Mom,

Thank you so much for taking the time and energy to bring your daughters to AWANAs, our Wednesday night church program. What a blessing that you share your precious girls with us!

Your three year old Brynn is making a big adjustment to let go of you for the evening, although she likes having her sister there for support. I volunteer with Cubbies, the program for three to five year olds that both of your daughters participate in. I have three year olds in my small group, so I spend most of the evening with Brynn.

Brynn gets my attention with a gentle tap on my arm that she repeats. Tap. Tap. Tap. She then announces, “I miss my Mommy.” Wisps of white blond hair surround her cherubic face as she puckers her lip, trying not to cry.

“Of course you do.” I always try to validate her feelings before I offer my hand and present the next activity. “Your mommy will be back later, but first, let’s go to our big group time and sing.” Brynn likes to hold my hand as we walk through the hallways. She quickly distracts from her sadness and readily engages in the next activity.

Tap. Tap. Tap. Brynn gets my attention after the activity to declare, “I miss my Mommy!” Again, the quivering lower lip accompanies attempts to swallow instead of cry.

“Yes, Brynn, your mommy will be here later.” I point out Brynn’s big sister, who is on her way to the classroom, and urge, “Let’s go hear our Bible story!”

Last month, Brynn was the first to raise her hand for a question, eagerly proclaiming, “Christmas is when Jesus was born!” Her smile was huge, her confidence unshakable, her assurance contagious. May God keep her faith deeply rooted and ever-developing.

Tap. Tap. Tap. Again Brynn’s rallying almost-cry, “I miss my Mommy!”

Again, Brynn reaches for my outstretched hand and melts my heart with her angelic hazel eyes. I try to encourage her. “Your mommy is coming back soon, but let’s go learn our Bible verse, hear our Apple Acres story, and color.”

Our group of three year olds learns a weekly Bible verse, usually four to ten words long, which we practice as a group. Brynn loves to learn the verse, and is usually one of the first girls to offer to recite the verse alone from memory with her bold, “I want to say it by myself!”

As we transition between activities, I often get the familiar tap, tap, tap followed by Brynn’s “I miss my Mommy!”

My responses are similar. “Yes , you will see her soon, but let’s go to the gym . . .watch the Cubbie Bear puppet show . . . have our music time . . . first.”

Before Christmas, I had the honor of holding Brynn’s purple butterfly headband for gym time. I soon put the headband down, along with my reading glasses, so that I could join in the fun. The group of three to five year olds (and a few of us older ones acting that age) laughed, walked hesitantly, and even ran as we balanced a jingle bell on our head across the gym. As always, when I looked over at Brynn in the middle of the group, she was smiling and having fun.

In our group time afterwards, when Miss Becky asked the name of the baby who was born at Christmas, Brynn was the first to enthusiastically call out “Jesus.” Oh Lord, may Brynn always be first to call on Jesus’ name and may that be her strength and hope in life. God, please build in her a great faith that touches others with Jesus’ love.

Toward the end of that night, I felt the usual tap, tap, tap. Before I said anything, Brynn looked up at me with her sweet face and triumphantly exclaimed “I don’t miss my Mommy!” Brynn’s big girl moment: she could relax and enjoy the evening, convinced that you would be there for her afterwards.

Reflecting on Brynn’s lesson later, I thought of my grief journey after my mother died two years ago. I would often say out loud, “I miss my Mom!” and then cry in mournful remembrance. Recently, my pain and sadness in remembering my mother have transitioned to nostalgia and love. Brynn’s big girl moment was a meaningful illustration for me. In Brynn’s adjustment to living life, having fun, and being reassured that her mother will be there at the end, I found an illuminating example of how to cope with my own sadness.

Using Brynn’s big girl words of confident hope, I prayed similar words to God: I don’t miss my Mom! I know that I will see her again later – in heaven.

Brynn’s Mom, thank you so much for the gift of letting your sweet daughter teach me a lesson about eternal life and God’s reassurance.

[Originally posted January 2015]

Filed Under: Grief Tagged With: AWANA, Christmas, grief, letter, mother, separation anxiety

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